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23rd Jan 2024

Conquering Loneliness After Divorce

Navigating Loneliness in Relationships

In this podcast episode, host Lesa Koski takes on the topic of navigating loneliness with the help of guest and family therapist, Brian Burns. They discuss how loneliness can be a fundamental issue in marriage and relationships, often motivating individuals to avoid divorce out of fear of isolation. Brian offers insights on tackling loneliness by practicing outward-focused interactions, self-awareness, and open communication, emphasizing that individuals should focus on their feelings when attempting to communicate their loneliness to a partner. Brian also advocates for couples to seek therapy and emphasizes that the process is about working on oneself in front of their partner.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:20 Discussing Loneliness and Its Impact

00:55 Guest's Podcast and Its Themes

01:35 Exploring the Topic of Sex and Communication

03:00 Diving into the Feelings of Loneliness

03:43 The Fear of Loneliness in Divorce

04:39 Loneliness as a State of Mind

05:24 The Societal Impact of Loneliness

06:14 Strategies to Combat Loneliness

07:02 The Role of Communication in Addressing Loneliness

07:33 The Power of Small Interactions

01:34 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Understanding Loneliness

11:25 The Role of Alcohol in Social Interactions

11:51 The Power of Texting in Building Connections

13:54 The Role of Mindset in Addressing Loneliness

18:43 The Importance of Honesty in Relationships

24:30 The Role of Marriage Counseling in Addressing Loneliness

28:36 Conclusion and Guest's Contact Information

Find Lesa at:

Lesakoski.com

https://linktr.ee/lesakoski

Find Brian at:

MN Relationship Repair: Home

MN Relationship Repair

https://www.mnrelationshiprepair.com

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About the Podcast

Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—Doing Divorce Different is your guide to a healthy, faith filled life transition.

Hosted by Family Law Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski, Doing Divorce Different is a candid, empowering podcast designed to take the fear out of divorce and guide you toward peace—whether you’re navigating a split, working to stay married, or rebuilding a better life after a major transition. Each week, Lesa brings heart-centered legal insight, emotional support, and holistic wisdom to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

We cover everything from amicable divorce and co-parenting strategies to parenting plans that actually work and support kids in thriving through change. You’ll learn how to prepare for marriage with prenups, revisit your relationship with post-nuptial agreements, and understand what it really takes to stay married or rekindle love after a rough season. If you're in the midst of a grey divorce, wondering how to not get divorced, or questioning whether love can be found again, this show is for you.

Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.

Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.

Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.

You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.

This is not just a podcast about divorce. Doing Divorce Different is about taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.

Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.

About the Host:
I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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