Episode 31

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25th Jan 2022

Doing Divorce Different, Can you be happy through Divorce? With the Happy Hustler Cary Jack and host attorney Lesa Koski #31

You can be happy through your divorce!  Or at the very least balanced!  Join us as the Happy Hustler (Cary Jack) walks us through the 10 alignments and how you can get his book free! (when you pay for shipping).  Doing Divorce Different was honored to welcome this top .5% podcaster to share his secret to blissful balance.  Cary Jack was moved be a part of Doing Divorce Different.  He is totally in to adding value to peoples lives; even those going through a rough spot.  He also experienced a gut-wrenching divorce as a child.  He hopes this episode can help even one parent make divorce a better experience for kids.  

Cary Jack walks host Lesa Koski through the 10 alignments and has her rank her own blissful balance.  Get a piece of paper and join along to get the most out of this episode.  The 10 alignments or soul mappin are listed below:

1. Selfless Service

2. Optimize health

3. Unplug

4. Loving Relationship

5. Mindful spirituality (gratitude)

6. Abundance Financially

7. Personal Development

8. Passion/hobbies

9. Impactful work

10. Nature Connection

Cary Jack recommends that you focus on one at a time to achieve your blissful balance.  Balancing our own selves can help us grow through divorce and help our kids have a better experience in the end.  Cary Jack adds, when kids are involved keep your ego out and do what is best for them.  

You can find Cary Jack and get his book on his website.  Listen to the Happy Hustle podcast on most platforms!

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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:

After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation.  In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up.  She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies.

Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind.  This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand.  Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable.  Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none.

Website:  https://www.lesakoski.com/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/

Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

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About the Podcast

Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—Doing Divorce Different is your guide to a healthy, faith filled life transition.

Hosted by Family Law Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski, Doing Divorce Different is a candid, empowering podcast designed to take the fear out of divorce and guide you toward peace—whether you’re navigating a split, working to stay married, or rebuilding a better life after a major transition. Each week, Lesa brings heart-centered legal insight, emotional support, and holistic wisdom to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

We cover everything from amicable divorce and co-parenting strategies to parenting plans that actually work and support kids in thriving through change. You’ll learn how to prepare for marriage with prenups, revisit your relationship with post-nuptial agreements, and understand what it really takes to stay married or rekindle love after a rough season. If you're in the midst of a grey divorce, wondering how to not get divorced, or questioning whether love can be found again, this show is for you.

Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.

Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.

Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.

You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.

This is not just a podcast about divorce. Doing Divorce Different is about taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.

Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.

About the Host:
I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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