Episode 36

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1st Mar 2022

How a Divorce Litigator and a Divorce Mediator Do Divorce Different; and yet Both are Gaining Momentum Toward Divorcing a Better Way with Attorney Jill Coil and Host Attorney Lesa Koski #36

If you are wondering if divorce mediation is right for you and you want to learn how to prepare for a divorce mediation, tune into this episode.  Attorney Jill Coil, a high profile divorce litigator and Lesa Koski, a divorce mediator; sit down and discuss the realm of possibilities on how to do divorce different and better.  Lesa coaches you through her 5 steps to get you to a better mindset for a successful mediation session.  Jill gives you the nuts and bolts of what you need to know before you head into a divorce mediations session.  First list your priorities in order.  She prompts her clients to understand their finances and budget.  Go into the session with an understanding of what you want, what you would settle for and what is your bottom line.  She reiterates that if you come to an agreement and nobody feels like they won; you have had a successful divorce mediation session.

The conversation gets inspiring when the two discuss that there is no perfect way to divorce but there is a better way.  Lesa Koski and Jill Coil are passionate about taking the shame out of divorce by doing divorce different.  There is a palpable movement changing how couples uncouple.  Lesa and Jill are on a mission to empower clients to have a better life after divorce. 

Jill L. Coil, Esq., is a divorce attorney licensed in both Texas and Utah. She has created and grown one of the largest family law firms in the state of Utah. She is also a motivational speaker and is on a mission to ensure that people feel empowered in their own lives to understand their self-worth and then be able to empower others. Last year, she released her first book, No One Dies from Divorce: How to Survive and Thrive When Your Marriage Ends, and hosts a podcast with the same title. Follow Jill on instagram at @JillCoil

MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:

After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation.  In truth, Lesa Koski Mediates wherever she shows up.  She is fully equipped with the communication skills that bring a taste of peace to the nastiest discrepancies.

Lesa's mission is to offer compassionate, complete, competent services while maker her life such that it blesses humankind.  This mission is palpable when you shake Lesa's hand.  Clients love working with Lesa because she is trustworthy and capable.  Above all, Lesa Koski is a brilliant communicator, bar none.

Website:  https://www.lesakoski.com/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/koskilaw/

Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesakoski/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mediationspecialists1/

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About the Podcast

Doing Life Different with Lesa Koski
Real conversations for women over 40 about faith, fitness, and fresh starts
Mindset, movement, and faith after 40—because midlife isn’t a crisis, it’s your comeback.

Welcome to Doing Life Different with Lesa Koski, the podcast for women over 40 who are ready to rewrite the rules, reclaim their joy, and rediscover their purpose. Whether you're navigating divorce, rediscovering your health, deepening your faith, or learning how to have fun again—you’re in the right place.

Host Lesa Koski—wife, mom, coach, and seasoned mediator—brings real talk, relatable wisdom, and expert interviews to guide you through midlife reinvention with grace and grit.

In each episode, you’ll get practical tools and empowering conversations on:

Mindset & personal growth

Faith & spiritual connection

Fitness, movement & health

Divorce, marriage & relationships

Fun, purpose & starting fresh in the second half of life

This isn’t just self-help. It’s soul-level transformation. Get ready to do life different—because your next chapter starts now.

Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.

Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.

Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.

You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.

This is a podcast about thriving through Cancer, taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.

Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.

About the Host:
I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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