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29th Nov 2022

Parenting Through Divorce

For today’s episode, we’re sharing an episode from the Peace and Parenting Podcast where Lesa was a guest. During this interview, Lesa gives some great tips on how to work together in a co-parenting relationship. Lesa and Michelle discuss how to create a healthy relationship and why it is vital for children to see their parents working together. Lesa dives into creating a parenting plan and what to keep in mind while working through some tough decisions. Lastly, Michelle talks about hope after divorce and how there is life afterward! Tune in today for some of Lesa’s best tips!

In this episode:

[3:01] What does it mean to become a co-parenting specialist? [6:10] Tips when working together as co-parents. [9:00] How to work through situations when healthy co-parenting isn’t an option. [10:46] As time goes on, how does the relationship shift post-divorce? [12:01] Why taking care of yourself is essential during a divorce. [15:45] How to create an excellent parenting plan. [20:22] There is hope after divorce.

Key Takeaways:

If given the right environment, kids can recover from the trauma of their parents getting divorced. Self-care is vital so that you are as well as you can be and as healthy as you can be, to take care of your children in the best way possible. When the primary caretaker is depleted, everything falls apart. Be a united front for the children. Have the children be front and center when thinking about your parenting plan. Keep a photo of the children in front of you while you work through the plan to remember why you are creating a co-parenting relationship.

Quotes:

“The one child who really seemed to thrive was the one where the parents kept it focused on him and his brother. The parents did birthday parties together, they celebrated holidays together, and I want to say it's not all doom and gloom. I know not everybody has the opportunity to co-parent well with someone. There are situations where that isn't possible, but the people coming to me want to work together, that doesn't mean they like each other, or it's not hard.” - Lesa Koski

“If you can be in the same room as that person, do your very best because those kids need that, and you're going to be connected for the rest of your lives; there's going to be weddings and grandchildren, there's always events.” - Lesa Koski

“There is life after divorce!” - Michelle Kenney

Resources:

Split Documentary

Peace and Parenting Podcast

Lesa Koski Website

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About the Podcast

Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—Doing Divorce Different is your guide to a healthy, faith filled life transition.

Hosted by Family Law Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski, Doing Divorce Different is a candid, empowering podcast designed to take the fear out of divorce and guide you toward peace—whether you’re navigating a split, working to stay married, or rebuilding a better life after a major transition. Each week, Lesa brings heart-centered legal insight, emotional support, and holistic wisdom to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

We cover everything from amicable divorce and co-parenting strategies to parenting plans that actually work and support kids in thriving through change. You’ll learn how to prepare for marriage with prenups, revisit your relationship with post-nuptial agreements, and understand what it really takes to stay married or rekindle love after a rough season. If you're in the midst of a grey divorce, wondering how to not get divorced, or questioning whether love can be found again, this show is for you.

Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.

Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.

Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.

You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.

This is not just a podcast about divorce. Doing Divorce Different is about taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.

Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.

About the Host:
I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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