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5th Mar 2024

Resilience and Growth: Laila Aitken's Guide to Doing Divorce Different

Doing Divorce Different: A Candid Conversation with Laila Aitken

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator, engages in a conversational interview with guest Laila Aitken Ali, a divorce coach and founder of Split FYI. They discuss overcoming the fear and emotional challenges of divorce, the importance of self-empowerment and self-care, and ways to effectively compartmentalize problems during difficult times. Laila shares her personal journey of divorce and how it led her to mentor and help others going through similar experiences. She emphasizes on viewing divorce as a journey of self-discovery and clarity, and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset and seeking support through community-based resources like Split FYI.

00:01 Introduction and Welcome

00:25 Meet the Guest: Laila Aitken Ali

01:57 The Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach

02:46 The Impact of Divorce on Self-Trust

03:46 The Role of a Divorce Coach

04:20 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce

05:40 The Power of Mindset in Navigating Divorce

06:12 Steps to Alleviate Overwhelm During Divorce

07:17 The Power of Compartmentalizing During Divorce

09:51 The Importance of Self-Talk and Embracing Feelings

12:09 The Power of Positive Mindset and Self-Acknowledgement

22:04 The Role of a Love Book in Nurturing Self-Love

26:40 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Bio. Struck by her own 10-year-long experience with divorce, Laila was exhausted and thrown by the complexities and lack of consolidated information to help her close that chapter. She longed for a safe place to access emotional and organizational help, with professionals, resources, tools, and a warm community of those who already understand the situation. Over time, this sparked Laila to create Split.fyi to propel more people in her situation forward. Laila focuses on being a positive thinking partner to help educate and support others to create their own personal roadmap, navigate the tides, and reclaim their confidence and inner balance.

Laila is a mom, accredited mediator, certified CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and in the Better Apart Method, a global citizen, and hopes to inspire everyone to take agency over their lives by educating and supporting as many people as she can to rest, reclaim and rebirth before, during and after divorce, breakup or a major transition in their life.

For Divorce Support go to Lesakoski.com

Find Laila: https://splitfyi.com/about-us/

https://www.instagram.com/splitfyi/?hl=en

https://www.facebook.com/groups/splitfyi

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About the Podcast

Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—Doing Divorce Different is your guide to a healthy, faith filled life transition.

Hosted by Family Law Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski, Doing Divorce Different is a candid, empowering podcast designed to take the fear out of divorce and guide you toward peace—whether you’re navigating a split, working to stay married, or rebuilding a better life after a major transition. Each week, Lesa brings heart-centered legal insight, emotional support, and holistic wisdom to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

We cover everything from amicable divorce and co-parenting strategies to parenting plans that actually work and support kids in thriving through change. You’ll learn how to prepare for marriage with prenups, revisit your relationship with post-nuptial agreements, and understand what it really takes to stay married or rekindle love after a rough season. If you're in the midst of a grey divorce, wondering how to not get divorced, or questioning whether love can be found again, this show is for you.

Lesa also explores the emotional and physical changes that often accompany midlife and major life shifts. From navigating the impact of menopause on your health, marriage, and mood, to dealing with the loneliness that can come after divorce or empty nesting, you’ll find honest conversations that don’t shy away from real-life challenges. And for those of you in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, you’ll discover what it means to truly build a better life after 40.

Health and wellness are deeply integrated into this journey. Lesa shares insights on the benefits of rest, joy, nutrition, fasting, protein, and bone health, along with the power of movement, community, and exercise to support mental clarity and physical strength. You’ll learn how to take care of yourself with intention—because healing isn’t just emotional, it’s also biological.

Mindset work and self-coaching are recurring tools offered in episodes to help you reframe your story and shift from fear to freedom. And through it all, the show honors the role of faith, spiritual surrender, and letting God lead you through every season. Whether you're leaning into your relationship with God for the first time or deepening a lifelong practice, you’ll hear how surrender can bring peace even in the hardest moments.

You’ll hear real stories from people who have done divorce differently, saved their marriages, or found new love and purpose on the other side. Lesa also brings in conversations about marriages that have stood the test of time, co-parenting through complex seasons, and the realities of parenting after separation while maintaining stability for your kids.

This is not just a podcast about divorce. Doing Divorce Different is about taking back your life, rewriting your future, and trusting that you’re not starting over, you’re starting better. If you’re craving practical advice, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about creating a healthy, joyful, purpose-driven life, you’ve found your community.

Subscribe now and join Lesa Koski for weekly episodes that will help you grow stronger in your relationships, your health, and your faith, no matter where you’re starting from.

About the Host:
I’ve spent over 25 years helping families navigate amicable divorce as a lawyer and mediator, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. But my mission has expanded. Today, I support women over 40 not just through endings, but in building stronger relationships—and sometimes even saving their marriages. I’m a breast cancer survivor, a cowgirl at heart, a wellness advocate, and a follower of Jesus. My life and faith fuel my passion for helping women thrive.

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