Healing Starts at Home | Key Takeaways with Nurse Lisa Sander

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Hey friends.

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Welcome back to the Saddle Up segment

of Doing life different, and this is

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the part of the show where we kind of

pause after the full conversation that

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came out Tuesday, and we pull out the

key takeaways, the things that you and

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I can carry into our lives right now.

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So this week my guest

was Nurse Lisa Sander.

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Lisa is a med surg charge nurse and she's

co-host of our healer, our protector.

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She's just a woman with a really

big heart, heart for helping

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people reconnect with themselves,

with each other, and with God.

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And she's walked through hard things

like divorce and raising kid kids as

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a single mom, and she found her voice.

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Kind of like I did in midlife.

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So she knows about healing

and she knows about hope.

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And I just wanna share a few of the

lessons that really stood out to me.

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And this first one, I did not

catch it when I was, you know,

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speaking to her on the podcast.

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I caught it when I was editing and

Lisa said something that really stuck.

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She said that when we are not healed.

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It's hard to truly help other people.

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So our pain pulls us in.

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But as we heal, we can

finally turn outward.

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We can listen, we can notice and serve,

and that's really a powerful reminder.

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So if you are still in a season

of deep hurt, give yourself

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grace, but also let healing be

the goal, because heal the people.

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Become helpers.

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And this is just so magnificent to me

because it's kind of that, that topic

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that I've talked about in a past podcast

with Valerie Jones where we talked

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about how she took a selfish year.

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Well, selfish isn't really selfish.

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Healing yourself actually allows you.

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To go out and heal others

through your stories or just

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by being able to be present.

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Another lesson was kindness begins

at home, and one of my favorite

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moments during that podcast was

when Lisa talked about how easy it

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is to be kind to strangers while

overlooking our own families.

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She said her goal is to be kind

to her husband, her kids, and

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the people right in front of her.

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And isn't that true?

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For many of us, sometimes it's hardest

to show kindness where it matters most.

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And I honestly, you can ask

my husband, I'm not always

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kind, but I am working on it.

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It has become one of

Michael's to be kind to him.

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The guy I see the most, um, you

know, I'm kind to the person at the

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grocery store that I don't even know.

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And now I want to really

grow and be kind at home.

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And we, and the third lesson that I

really wanna hone in on is that we

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need humility more than defensiveness.

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And Lisa shared that she grew

up around criticism, which

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made apologizing difficult.

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But she's learned that humility heals way

faster than defending ourselves ever does.

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I am gonna say that hit me because

that is a lesson that my dad

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taught me long ago, and I listened

and I heard it loud and clear.

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You need to say your're, sorry.

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Um, you need to realize,

don't, don't kill yourself.

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If you made a mistake,

just say you're sorry.

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So, you know.

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That's not everybody.

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Some people have a really hard time.

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Like I would say my husband is more on

the realm of, he feels like he has to

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explain and justify and think of all the

energy that we waste when we do that.

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Instead of just saying,

I'm sorry I was wrong.

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So humility does open doors.

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That pride keeps locked and that

has, is something that I have seen

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in my own life over the years.

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Oh, and then the fourth, our country

and our families need healing.

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We did talk about Charlie Kirk

and you know that sad situation.

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We talk about the heaviness of that day.

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I recorded because it was the day after

that happened and the grief in our nation.

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Lisa said something I can't stop

thinking about if our, if our families

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can't get along, how can we expect

our country to That's so true.

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And we talked about that in the

lesson about kindness, healing

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our homes, choosing respect and

kindness, even in hard seasons.

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It does, it creates a ripple effect.

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So if you wanna change the world,

start at your kitchen table.

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The, the fifth lesson, uh, that I,

that I got from that podcast, well,

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there were a lot of 'em, but here's

one that stuck out, stood out to me,

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is that Lisa's story reminded me that

finding your voice, especially as a

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woman in midlife, is part of healing.

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She has been through people pleasing

perfectionism and silence, but

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she's learned to speak from a

place of love instead of fear.

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Friends, it's not too late.

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It's never too late to speak your truth.

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Whether it's setting a boundary or

sharing your faith or simply just

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telling your story, your voice

can bring healing to someone else.

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And then finally, the sixth lesson

is, I've already talked about

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it, lead with kindness every day.

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That is, um, my goal.

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Is to be kind.

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And so Lisa and I both believe that

small acts of kindness changed the world.

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She told me she used to ask

your kids at dinner, what did

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you do today to show kindness?

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I love that.

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I wish I could say I did it,

but I can maybe start doing

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it with my grandchildren.

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So maybe that's the question

we can all ask ourselves.

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Who did I lift up today?

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Where did I add kindness?

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Even the smallest things matter.

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Holding a door, saying a

name, offering a smile.

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Okay, so here's my little recap of

the lessons, which is those takeaways.

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I'll go through 'em quick.

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Once again.

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One is healing allows us to serve others.

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The second one is kindness Starts at home.

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Third, humility heals

faster than defensiveness.

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Healing our families is step

one to healing our country.

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Number five is your voice matters

no matter what your age and number

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six, daily kindness is, leadership.

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Friend, I hope these

lessons encourage you.

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Healing is not a one-time event, it's a

process, but every choice we make towards

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kindness, humility and courage adds up.

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If you haven't listened to the

full conversation with Nurse

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Lisa, go back and catch it.

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It's full of heart and hope,

and until next week, let's

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saddle up and live this out.

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Starting at home.

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I.