Saddle Up Segment: Supporting Families Through Divorce and Special Needs Challenges

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Welcome to this week's Saddle Up segment where we just take key

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takeaways from the Doing Divorce,

different podcasts that aired on Tuesday,

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and, and I said it in the, in the

episode, and I'm gonna say it again.

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If there's only one thing that

you get from that episode, this

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is what I want you to hear.

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If both parties in a divorce

are willing and able.

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To work together, you

can do this amicably.

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So keep that in mind.

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Sometimes you need help.

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Sometimes you need a mediator.

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Sometimes you need attorneys.

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Sometimes you need an attorney mediator.

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So you, you will maybe need some

support, but you can do this together.

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And you know my spiel,

it's all about the kids.

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So I want you to do it amicably,

whether you have children or not.

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But if you have children, it's

the best thing that you can do

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for them to work together, to work

together on that parenting plan.

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Don't put them in the middle.

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Have them at the center have it so that

both parents have the child at the center

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and they're not being pulled apart.

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I've seen it so many times and

it's so hard on children, and we

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know that now On Tuesday's episode,

we had the blessing of having Dr.

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Peggy Price, and she is also an

attorney who has been through a

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divorce with not just a typical child.

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But a special needs child, and she made

me a better mediator by bringing up issues

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that you're gonna need to think through.

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So.

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If you can do it amicably do.

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If you have kids, it's really important.

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If you have a special needs

child, it's even more important

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to work together to come up with

a parenting plan for your child.

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And you know, I think what Peggy

was saying is a lot of times

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people won't really even address

it in their divorce decree.

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And it needs details, need to be

in your parenting plan because

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you have a unique circumstance.

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We talked through financial circumstances.

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We talked about child support being

different for a child with special

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needs and how sometimes they need

support longer than the 18 years,

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and what are you gonna do then?

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We talk through.

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What about if there's one parent

who's, you know, really doing most

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of the work with the child and not

really able to have that career?

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So in these situations, it is so key that

even though your marriage didn't work.

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You can make this work for your child.

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So I just be you if you can work

together for these kids, because there

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are different needs for a special needs

child and there are financial things

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you're going to need to be thinking of.

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And there's things that you need

to think through, just like typical

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children, you know, you need to know.

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Um, what their wants and

needs are and what works best

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for them with special needs.

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She was saying they probably need less

transfer days, so make sure that when

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you're doing a schedule, you put that

in and then always put in that as things

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shift and change that you're going

to be able to go in and change it.

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And sometimes you don't

even have to go to court.

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You can make.

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Changes to your parenting plan.

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As long as you both agree, the

only time you have to go to court

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is if you're fighting about it.

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So it was really a good episode.

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And this is just a very quick,

um, synopsis of what we cover,

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but I think it is the key things

that you need to think of.

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If you have a special needs

kiddo, there's a book that Dr.

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Peggy, Peggy Price put out.

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It's on Amazon.

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Grab it so you know how to plan.

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For your divorce and reach out

to me if you have questions

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or need more information and

go back to Tuesday's episode.

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It's a good one and I feel so

thankful to have had her on.

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So thanks so much for being here.

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You take good care.